
To start, honestly I think government shouldn’t be involved at all in this marriage debate. I think it is a state issue at most, but ultimately I guess that’s a separate issue.
In the end I think civil marriage and religious marriage are two distinctly different things. I’m not going to win many friends over here either, but I think the real problem is that civil marriage boils down to an ordinary civil contract between a man and a woman for general human purposes (such as joint ownership, medical decision-making capacity for a significant other etc… a long list is here: http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/marriage-rights-benefits-30190.html )
The problem really boils down to the word marriage. I have a hard time thinking denying rights to a human being to make up their own mind how to share their rights with another person is trumped by the will of god.
I accept and believe that the will of god is for men and women to marry as a mechanism to reproduce and nurture life, and is the means by which family is created. This might as well be fact, written in stone and I can’t argue that, nor will I. The problem is there are numerous benefits legally afforded to the people who conform to this principle that are denied to other people who don’t conform. That fundamental inequality doesn’t sit well with me.
For the same reason gender inequality in the workplace is not right, neither in my humble opinion is inequality in civil marriage rights. Either remove the concept of Civil Marriages (leaving the more important Religious Marriage), or allow any 2 people to enter into this contract.
People will live the lives they choose to live regardless of if they can get “married.” The reasons people are using to ban gay marriage I know are heartfelt, and at their core people are trying to do the right thing for God, and society. I just have a hard time accepting this as being ok. We are supposed to be a free society and this is one of the few things preventing us from truly being free.
I don’t see this as being any different then prohibition on alcohol, or the war on drugs, or the Jim Crow Laws. It’s just ineffective, and I think is really just a way of a majority of poeple to impose their will on a minority of people who act and think differently then they do. Even if the fact they are a minority would lead you to think their opinion is “wrong,” I still thought we were a free country?
Maybe I’m in the minority now.
Matthew 7 : 1-5
1. Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4. How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5. You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.





